Internships: Should we or should we not?

I have seen a doctor turning into writer, and chemical engineer turning into a painter and a Charted Accounted becoming the owner of a candle making company.

A Decade ago if you ask a teenager what do you want to become, then the kid will straight away look at his/her parents face or repeat the same answer as parents used to say Medical or Engineer and getting into the science stream was assumed like climbing Himalaya. If his or her child won’t get into Science stream for high school then the child was assumed to be not so Intelligent. It was much later that commerce came into Lime light when Charted Accountants and Company Secretaries became a trend.

So in this trending world some important courses and interests of the child are lost. Well now let me tell you, ‘Art is the new trend’ and most the parents are pushing their children toward drawing, craft, music and what not, but again its a wrong way to see the world, as you are stressing your child with education and extra activities with less time for self realisation.

So here comes the new trend and I am really pro towards this, It’s Internships. You will find a lot of Internship ads on social media and they are there for almost all streams according to you and your child’s interest.

I don’t know if you guys have heard about it but nowadays eight year old kids are learning coding, just like that internships are project based work where your child learns how to work and they will be working with the real actual companies, it makes sense about what the real work is in outside world and the teenager understands the work pressure.

Why to choose internships?

Your kid may be interested in some stream of his own interest but as a parent and even the kid as a teenager may not be sure whether to choose that stream or not and that’s where the internships play a huge role. After doing the internship you and your child both will feel confident about what and how to do?

What does Internships give?

Internships are mostly online these days and there is a lot to explore. But there are many practical based internships are also available. There are lot of NGOs offering internships and its a great way spend holidays for teenager and explore career options. After doing internships you might also get an idea of what college to choose and according to the stream you choose which is the best place to do your desired course. It will also give teenager seriousness about the stream he/she chooses as a career and the kid’s grades might improve with the level of interest created during the internship period.

How to choose the Internships?

Internships are Both paid and unpaid. You have a choice to make. They have certain specifications but if the teenager is just entering high school, paid internships would be difficult to get. But They do provide certificate of experience which gives an excellent look while creating the Curriculum Vitae (CV). Internships starts with a duration of 3 weeks to 12 weeks and once you have completed the duration fully, the certification is provided.

Benefits of Internships

Almost all the internships provide certificate at the end of the period. This will add as a work experience on your Curriculum Vitae. If you have done many internships by the time you finish your college and start searching for a real job then your CV would definitely look quite impressive with being a versatile learner.The most important benefit would be that you will have a clear idea of which companies to apply and what kind of work to expect from the new place.

As you never know what your passion is, so don’t waste your time and energy on the work that doesn’t interest you, instead take a firm decision from the beginning of your career choices.

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The Feeling of Dying

The Feeling Of DYING,

Everyone, and believe me everyone has this feeling once in their lifetime or once a year, once a month and for some its everyday.

Yes some do feel like dying everyday, We often judge suciders as weak but have you ever thought of yourself, even you must have felt like dying but you diverted or gave a thought process towards living with it.

But sometime people to do come to point of closure where they find nothing interesting, they find themselves in the place that their pain is the deepest in the world so they find dying as the closure to their suffering.

But is it true that once you die? all your physical sufferings are going to end but you create a feeling of dying in an another person. That person is the one who always wanted to see you alive and you were the purpose of their life. But you ended your life and now they are waiting for that one day when they feel the same strong essence of dying.

This feeling of dying often comes at a very early age. But we just keep pushing it, sometimes when we just feel the world crashing over us then we find a good friend or our loved ones just cheer us up on that saddest day. But not everyone gets that kind of people around them.

A 15 year old girl gulped the whole packet of paracetamol tablets, she just puked it all out in 8 hours but that was a close call to end her life.

Imagine 15 year olds finding it hard to let go and start a fresh. I remember reading in the newspaper, a article stating that a girl committed sucide because her parents put up the restriction on hours she was spending on her newly bought phone and her grades were dropping. So she gulped the rat poison and she died, she was 17.

Just like we should not compare our life with others, please don’t judge others reason for dying as silly or make a joke out of it. Take it seriously when someone tells you they feel like killing themselves talk it out, because this feeling is a creeper and it just spreads and grows.

After doing a lot of brainstorming and research, when I thought deep about this feeling, so the first question that arrives, when and why does this feeling comes?

In this era, Life is pretty difficult for not to compare, social media is booming, everybody is posting something, achieving something, creativity has come to its newest level, but there are many who are not doing anything but seeing all this they do feel sad and unworthy thus find it very difficult to cope.

They slip into different kinds of disorder and some very difficult to treat.

The other day I was just giving a instagram like to an old school friend photo and it was not a picture to be liked and I could see there was hardly anyone who bothered to like his post but I did click on that like because you never know what that person goes through when they don’t find themselves as competitive as others.

When you give a deep thought about this feeling, it comes through our childhood, it really matters what kind of childhood we had and how often we got that feeling of dying, why we got it?

Because we do talk about everything when we are sitting with our parents or friends but we never talk about our feelings to die, we think no one will understand. You think they will pity you.

Now lets talk about recovery of this feeling,

The most important thing about this feeling either you are too busy or you are too free to think about dying.

When you are too busy you find it hard to find time for yourself or some long waited desires you wanted to fullfill for yourself.

When you are too free, you find yourself bored, noncompete, negative part of the world comes in front of you.

In both the cases when you get this feeling keep a diary for yourself,

  1. Write the date and start writing your feelings for that day or week or month just pour it out
  2. Do this for a month if daily you have the same feeling about dying and there is no change then please find a counsellor. You can find online counsellor too just to hear you out. They will suggest if you need therapy or medications
  3. If the feeling is occasional like not more than twice then you are fine its common to feel like that but do give it a thought what made you come out of that feeling of dying, and keep doing it for yourself.

Its very important that at very young age you talk it out this feeling because once you suppress it, it just keeps coming back in some other way and as you age talking to someone becomes very difficult.

How to make your kids talk about this or how to successfully make them get rid of this feeling is by inculcating the habit of reading.

You must give some age appropriate books so that its easy for them to express their feelings and overcome the difficult situation in their life.

You cannot always be with your child but you can put the good thoughts in their minds that will always be with them.

So next time you want gift your child please keep in mind the thoughts your putting into their young minds.

I have made a compilation of the books that’s must read according to their age group, If you have some more suggestion about this do write to me and follow me on instagram @therealinfluencer2020

Checkout the list below

4 to 8 years 

What Were You Thinking?: A Story About Learning to Control Your Impulses https://amzn.to/3aSTcyq

You, Me and Empathy: Teaching Children about Empathy, Feelings, Kindness, Compassion, Tolerance and Recognising Bullying Behaviours https://amzn.to/2YlZfGD

The Wonderful Things You Will Be Hardcover by https://amzn.to/3j4OaSc

Wherever You Are: My Love Will Find You Board book https://amzn.to/2YsYStL

Age group: 7 to 14 years

The Kids’ Guide to Staying Awesome and In Control: Simple Stuff to Help Children Regulate Their Emotions and Senses https://amzn.to/2FT2S0t

Science Tale For Kids- Jo the Waste Manager by Young Angels https://amzn.to/32fgIBO

World’s Greatest Artists: Biographies of Inspirational Personalities For Kids https://amzn.to/3gn8exx

The Dot that went for a walk… (51 Short Stories) {specially for girls} https://amzn.to/3aMyrV1

Above 13 years of age

Tackling teen trouble: Kriti Kanuga https://amzn.to/3jjcHDl

The Visage: Unmasked Paperback  https://amzn.to/2Yskd6H

Life is what you make it by Preeti Shenoy https://amzn.to/2Yt7rEX

The worry workbook for teens: Jamie A.Micco Phd https://amzn.to/3l4hMkm

The Odd 1s Out: How to Be Cool and Other Things I Definitely Learned from Growing Up by James Rallison. https://amzn.to/3gm0rjw

Be Your Own Sunshine: James Allen https://amzn.to/31mhXQo

Perception is an insight.You cannot put bad thoughts into people’s mind but you can influence their perception with good thoughts.

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Say No to Your Pads Today

say no to pads forever

My first reaction when I heard about the menstural cups was “EUCK”. But I have been using it since one year now.When I look at the time I still cannot believe it one year now and I am officially a pro at using it.

I have been a heavy bleeder but from last 6 months the period heaviness is decreased and have officiallysaid goodbye to the PAINFUL cramps. Many told me after having kids your flow will decrease but NOPE, it got little bearable but otherwise there is no significant change.So the idea of a cup holding my flow was out of the question.

But something triggered me to give it a try. I was reading a blog about sustainable living and lifestyle changes, it made a huge impact on me. There were few things I could change in my lifestyles and this was one of those things.

Do you know pads are not good for the environment and their disposal and treatment takes lot of energy and it stills leaves our soil scared and irreparable damages. 

The next important thing that is coming for us in future is that we will be definitely charged for the disposal of each pad we use. So imagine buying an expensive pad plus charges for disposing the pads, be causing disposal of pads do take seggregation and treatment of the used pads.

So its the right time to switch from pads to Menstrual cups. I am sure you are gonna love this cups after 3 months because it takes time to adjust just like we took time to get used to our periods for the first time.

Who should immediately switch to cups from pads/tampons?

  1. Light menstrual bleeders
  2. Work from home women/girls
  3. Newbies/teenage girls who have just started getting periods
  4. Everyone who wants to get rid of pads and save the Mother Nature from the pads/tampons

For heavy bleeders like me here are some tips:

  1. menstrual cups comes in different sizes opt for the best choice for you according to your age.
  2. For the first three months use a pad (you will need only one even on your heaviest day) but you will be saving yourself from using 3 more pads.
  3. Wear a pad while going out for any kind of work just for safety purpose.
  4. Your flow will decrease after 6 months of using menstrual cups and you will get an idea of when u will need a pad and when not.

From past one year I have only bought two packets of pads and I still have 3 or 4 left of that stock. 

As I am a heavy bleeder if I had been using pads for past one year then the total would be (10 padsx12months=120 pads a year) instead I have used 10 pads in on year that’s remarkable right.

Now let me give me some real tips on how to choose a menstrual cups.

  1. Always buy 2 cups because accidents can happen and while inserting or removing the cup might fall down into the toilet so better have a spare one (always) or one you can keep in your carry bag.
  2. The cup must have smallest removable tip.(I have listed few of my favourite brands that I use)
  3. Keep a separate small pan or bowl to boil your menstrual cup
  4. If you have a daughter then definitely start using a menstrual cup, you could help her from the trap of infections from pads and tampons.
  5. Menstrual cups are more travel friendly then pads, you just need a bottle of water.

Final tip is DONOT GIVE UP, You will be a Pro like me in No time.

The following is list of brands I have tried and tested.

  1. The BOOND cups are the best cups in the market, slightly expensive but they are perfect cups with the smallest tips
  2. Currently I am using the cups from this brand click this link and check out if it suits you https://amzn.to/2E9D8MD
  3. The last I want to suggest is https://amzn.to/31belAA

Lets all change to some simple habits today which can give us a better world tomorrow.

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